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A 30-year-old woman is turning to Reddit after facing a dilemma with her friend over vacation plans.
The woman and another friend had decided to take a trip together, but their decision resulted in a dispute with their third friend, a single mom who expected to be included with her children. "My friend Sarah is a single mom with two kids," the woman explains in her post.
"She's been going through a rough time after separating from her husband last year, and I've done my best to be there for her."
She goes on to describe how she and her other friend, Lina, have consistently accommodated Sarah, from planning outings around her children's needs to being as flexible as possible with other get-togethers.
The conflict arose when Sarah learned of their vacation plans and became upset, believing she and her children should have been included. Sarah argues that as her closest friends, they should consider her difficult situation and invite her on their travel plans.
However, the poster and Lina explained that a vacation with Sarah and her children would significantly alter the nature of their planned trip. In an attempt to compromise, they offered to take a shorter trip with Sarah and her kids, but this suggestion was dismissed.
"She then said that she would have let me join if the roles were reversed, but to me, that's not a fair comparison," the woman writes.
"Sarah has now said that she doesn't know if our friendship will survive this, which I think is an extreme reaction," the woman adds.
Since posting on Reddit, many commenters have sided with the poster, saying she should stick with her original plans despite how Sarah is currently feeling.
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One user suggests Sarah leave the kids with the father of her child, to which the poster responds, "She doesn't want to, which has always been the case with her. She says her kids are a part of her and she doesn't wanna leave them."
While acknowledging Sarah's disappointment, she questions whether she should let the guilt trip change the plans she already had.
In a follow-up comment, the woman provides more context: "We did consider the idea of letting her come along while still sticking to our original plans, but realistically, I don't think it'd work."
She continues, "If we went out at night while she stayed in with the kids, she'd likely feel excluded, even if she claims now that she wouldn't mind. She said she doesn't expect us to help us with her kids but realistically that is near impossible. We love the kids and if they went up to us wanting our attention or help, we would never tell them to just f -- off."